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2020 and 2021
The Journay to Certification in Emotionally Focused Therapy from the International Centre for Excellence in EFT
2020 marked the start of my journey to become certified in emotionally focused therapy. The requirements for certification are set by ICEEFT, the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy. Training in EFT starts with a 30 hour training held over 4 days called externship, and then progresses to a training of about 44 hours over several months called Core Skills. In 2020, I chose to also be trained in EFT for individuals and EFT for families, both 4 day trainings. I also began training in advanced special topics such as EFT and addictive processes.
EFT was originally researched and used with just couples. As the years went on, and with the advancement in the research of this attachment-based therapy, it is now used with individuals and families as well.
EFT with couples uses the 50+ years of attachment science as the framework. It focuses on the emotional experiences and strategies of people to make sense of our underlying fears and longings, and our typical moves of going towards or away from our partner in times of distress or conflict.
EFT requires a solid commitment from life partners to each other and to the relationship. Partners also commit to working on themselves and the dynamics between each other.
EFT is not about learning or being coached in negotiation skills or compromising.
EFT is aimed at creating a more secure bond, or more emotionally engaged attachment, between two committed life partners.
EFT is both hard work and rewarding.
To learn more about EFT, Sue Johnson's book for clients "Hold Me Tight" is highly recommended, as are her videos on YouTube and her website.
Emotionally Focused Therapy
Emotionally Focused Therapy developed by Dr. Sue Johnson is a new therapy approach aimed at deepening the connection in relationships.
EFT for individuals is aimed at promoting emotional safety and balance within oneself by attuning to your emotional experience and making sense of it.
EFT for couples makes explicit the current negative interaction cycle that is co-created and reinforced between two people and works to create positive cycles through powerful new interactions that give voice to each persons emotional experiences and their attributed meanings.